Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.(Gen.2:24)
Intimacy in marriage relationship is so important to God that He requires that you must DEPART from home and CLEAVE to your spouse. It must have been so because God did not want anything or anybody to act as obstacle between husband and wife. Marriage is such a long journey that if your spouse is not an intimate friend, you will find the journey both boring and a foretaste of hell.
Today, we shall be looking at those factors that encourage intimacy in the home. The Bible has given us a summary of what it takes to have intimacy at home; They are mutual love and submission.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; The matter of love has to be mutually subscribed to by both husband and wife as stated in Mark 12:30&31.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Eph.5:22)
The Bible enjoin husbands to love their husband but you will discover that if you love your wife, there are situations in which you will have to submit even as husband. That is why it has to be mutual submission as stated in Ephesians 5:21;
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
In any marriage where there is mutual love and submission, there is bound to be a closeness that will make the marital union an intimate one. Some of the features of such home are:
i. Acceptance despite imperfections.
ii. The ability to remember the beginning of the relationship.
iii. The ability to speak the love language your spouse understands.
iv. The ability to forgive offenses.
v. The ability to trust and rebuild trust even when it has been eroded.
vi. Openness to each other.
vii. Realization that the two of you actually are one as far as God is concerned.
Intimacy does not happen in a marriage, it is like an ongoing journey that has to be worked upon especially as your marriage advances in age. In other words, if you want intimacy in your union, you must work at it.
Are you ready to work on it?
DISCUSSION POINTS WITH YOUR SPOUSE
• Frankly speaking, in which area do you think I need to work on, to make this relationship more intimate?
My father and God, I desire the highest level of intimacy between me and my spouse. I receive the grace to do my own part to make it happen in my home in Jesus’ name.
THE INTENTION OF GOD IS THAT YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE SHOULD BE VERY CLOSE, ANY OBSTACLE IN BETWEEN YOU IS OUTSIDE GOD. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi