NAKEDNESS IN MARRIAGE.
‘And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and they were not ashamed’ (Gen. 2:25)
Nakedness in marriage is about being open to each other, or the deliberate habit of not hiding anything from your spouse. Your spouse should be your greatest confidant, to whom you must cultivate the habit of communicating. As a man, you must cultivate the habit of listening to your spouse even if what she is saying appears unreasonable. It is a dangerous thing for your marriage that you become so busy that you don’t have time to sit down and share your joy, fear and anxiety with you spouse. Unless in exceptional cases, especially for ministers of God, secrets are not for couples because whatever you tell the husband is likely and must be communicated to the spouse. You must in fact make up your mind to ensure that you open up to your spouse in every situation you find yourself. Such a habit reduces tension in your life.
Everyone has some ugly past, and it is better to let your spouse know your own before he or she discovers it. Also, when you commit an error, the best person to confide in is your spouse. He or she may initially be disappointed but under normal circumstances, there are a lot of implications which your spouse will consider but which another person may not think about before exposing you.
Another vital area to be naked about is the area of finance. Often women ask, should we keep joint account with our spouse? Men also often ask whether it is reasonable for you to let your wife know how much you are earning. Except in extreme cases of abuse, the answer to the two questions will be Yes! There’s nothing wrong with your spouse knowing what you are earning, it is even good for you to keep common purse. However, even where it is not possible to keep a common purse, you will save your home a lot of misunderstandings if you can strive to be open to your spouse generally about your finances.
Following are some of the merits of being naked to each other:
1. Nakedness reduces the rate of suspicion as it increases trust.
2. Nakedness makes joint planning to be easier and it reduces wastage.
3. Nakedness reduces tension in your life.
4. Nakedness reduces the tendency to tell lies.
5. Nakedness is a reflection of personal spiritual growth.
6. Nakedness is a reflection of a life of faithfulness to marital vows.
7. Nakedness makes spiritual battles to be easy for couples to fight as there is no hiding place.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• Are there still areas where you find it difficult to open up to your spouse? Why?
LORD let me build up enough trust to be able to open up to my spouse in every area of life in Jesus’ name.
WHEN YOU ARE HIDING FROM YOUR SPOUSE, IT IS EITHER YOU HAVE LOST TRUST IN YOUR SPOUSE OR YOU ARE NOT TO BE TRUSTED. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi.