REASONS WHY MANY FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SACRIFICE FOR THEIR HOME
For who makes you differ from another? And what do you have that you did not receive? Now if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it? (1Cor.4:7)
Many of us find it extremely difficult to sacrifice relationships, resources, time and pleasure to keep our homes because of some reasons, some of them are:
LACK OF TRUST- For many, they have been disappointed by their spouse in the past, so they find it difficult to sacrifice anything for the spouse. If you have been disappointed in the past and your spouse has apologized, why don’t you forgive and build up trust again? The journey of marriage is so long that you can’t afford to go on with lack of trust, you simply won’t enjoy it.
INSECURITY- Often, the reason why many can’t sacrifice is insecurity. Maybe the spouse of a friend of yours treated your friend badly or maybe all your husband’s siblings have an uncomfortable trend in their family and you are now having the feeling that your own spouse may also do the same thing. The fact that someone else’s spouse did something bad does not mean your own spouse will do the same thing. If the two of you believe in the efficacy of prayer, a trend that has been playing out in the family for generations can stop with your own spouse.
IGNORANCE- Often, many ignorantly fail to put things in proper perspective, and thus fail to establish the fact that their home take precedence over any other consideration. When you are ignorant of this fact, it prevents you from making the necessary sacrifices to keep your home.
LACK OF COMMITMENT- When you are not committed to your home as a result of alternative attraction, you may find it difficult to sacrifice anything to keep your home. In fact, many that are in illicit relationship, apart from inability to sacrifice, won’t even mind if their home collapses. It is often after it happens that they discover their folly.
WRONG COUNSEL- Behind the ruins or the breakdown of many homes is the wrong counsel received from friends. When a friend is advising you against doing something that can keep your home going, you need to evaluate such counsel before implementing it.
Except when your spouse has been unrepentantly and evidently unfaithful to his or her marital vows, there are at least three reasons why you must be ready to sacrifice:
1. You don’t really own anything separately; all you have are jointly owned by the two of you.
2. If you hold on to it while your home suffers, you are not faithful to your marital vows.
3. If you fail to sacrifice that thing and your home breaks down, what you are holding on to will not give you fulfillment.
If you love your home, you must be ready to sacrifice anything for it; that will definitely be less expensive than losing your home.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• Do you find it difficult to trust your spouse? Why?
SACRIFICE WHATEVER YOU NEED TO SACRIFICE TO KEEP YOUR HOME; DIVORCE OR SEPARATION WILL DEFINITELY BE MUCH MORE EXPENSIVE. – Dr. Ike Oluniyi.