But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.(1Cor.9:27)
This mindset makes you to train your child to be in control of his feelings and overcomes his weaknesses. It will make him to own up in his areas of weaknesses and avoid blaming others for his own errors. A self-disciplined person will become a force to reckon with in life.
Self-disciplined mindset will make you to emphasize the following to your children:
There is Consequence for Wrong decisions.
Your child should be made to know that just as there is reward for good behavior, there is also consequence for wrong decisions. He should be made to deliberately work on himself from going against set rules even when it is inconvenient for him to do so.
Let them understand the golden rule.
Let them know that if you are doing unto others what you don’t want them to do to you, you are either being outright wicked or a hypocrite (Matt.7:12). Consequently, before they do anything to others, they should ask themselves how they will feel if it is done to them.
Instructions must be followed.
Let them know that unless permission to differ has been sought and received, instructions once given must be followed. Anyone who deliberately flouts instructions given without genuine cause or permission to do so is an irresponsible person.
Own up when wrong.
Teach them that anyone who gives excuse for wrongdoing will still do the same thing and even worse later in the future. Let your children know that persistent giving of excuses is one of the life-features of irresponsible people.
Forgo present consumption to invest in the future.
The self-disciplined mindset will make you to teach your children to learn how to forgo present pleasures in order to direct their resources to future gratifications. Those who are not able to delay gratifications will not be able to invest for future use.
Let them understand due process and avoid shortcuts.
Avoidance of due process is a feature of people who are not self-disciplined. There is therefore the need for you to train your child to go through due process. Once they get used to it from their youthful age, it will help them to take the right decisions in the future.
Let them understand that there is time for everything.
Part of the self-disciplined lifestyle which you need to imbibe in your children is doing the right thing at the right time. (Eccl.3:1-8)
Your relationship with your spouse serves as the laboratory to demonstrate the practice of so many of the godly virtues you wish to teach your children. Let it be seen in you and your spouse that you practice what you are teaching them.
DISCUSSION POINTS WITH YOUR SPOUSE
• In what ways can we do more in training our children to be self-disciplined in their endeavors?
LORD, help me to raise ssel-disciplined children in Jesus’ name.
ANYONE WHO GIVES EXCUSE FOR FAULTY ACTIONS WILL COMMIT MORE ATROCITIES IN THE FUTURE. -Dr. Mike Oluniyi