Towards Making Your Spouse To Run With Your Vision :Couples Companion Day 50
Main Text: Hab.2:2-3
Memory:
And the Lord answered me, and said,
Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables,
that he may run that readeth it. (Hab.2:2-3)
You can’t actualize your vision alone; you need others to run with the vision. Among the those who will be used by God for your vision to become a reality is your spouse.
Today, we are going to look at some of the principles that can help towards making your spouse to believe in and run with your vision.
The Principle Of Vision Sharing.
If you desire your spouse to run with your vision, he/ she must understand what your vision is all about. Does your wife know what God has called you to do? (Hab.2:2-3)
The principle of building according to the given pattern.
Building according to pattern is all about doing what God has shown you in the vision you were given (Heb.8:5b). Every diversion from your vision confuses your spouse and makes her to see inconsistency and reduces the trust she has in the vision.
The principle of goal-setting.
Goal-setting is vital for your spouse and others to know what to do next (1Cor.14:8). Your vision is so broad but you need to break it down into time-bound achievable goals. When it is in such state, it motivates everyone involved to achieve success.
The principle of role appreciation/ fault-blindness.
The principle of role appreciation and fault blindness propagates the appreciation of the contributions of your spouse to the ministry and the refusal to hammer on her faults. Many of us are guilty of condemning whatever our spouse does and emphasizing their faults.
The principle of acceptance of complementary vision.
This principle talks about accepting and co-owning the vision God has given your spouse.
Many ministers of God are at war with their spouse over the vision that God has given their spouse. There are also pastors who feel threatened about the gifts of their spouse.
The principle of spousal counsel and evaluation.
Spousal counsel and evaluation here is about being open enough to allow your spouse to evaluate what the ministry is doing and give a word of advice. When your wife has a say through counseling and evaluation, it gives her the feeling that you are in the ministry together. She might want to go the extra mile to ensure that things work out well for the ministry.
The principle of joint altar.
The principle of joint altar is such a powerful catalyst for your spouse to run with your vision. Anything you pray about, you will be on the lookout for it to come to pass.
If you want your spouse to be passionate about your vision, it does not just happen. There is a need to work towards it and even when it is achieved, there is a need to keep paying attention to the above principles as they will make your spouse to believe that she is a significant stakeholder in the ministry.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Discuss each of the principles above with your spouse and see how far you can observe them.
* Is there anyone of the principles that can’t work for you even if you are a businessman and not a minister of God?
PRAYER
My father and God, may my spouse be encouraged to run with my vision in Jesus’ name.
QUOTABLE QUOTE
YOU ARE THE GREATEST DETERMINANT OF WHETHER OR NOT YOUR SPOUSE WILL RUN WITH YOUR VISION. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi
