'A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things.'(Eccl.10:19)


Though money can’t replace the call of God upon your life, money will help to actualize the call of God. Lack of money has made many to be frustrated out of ministry. Consequently as a minister of God unless otherwise directed by God, you may need to be involved in one business or the other.

• Shortage of money can make your vision to become stunted.

• Shortage of money can make you to abandon your calling and give yourself an assignment which God knows nothing about.

• Shortage of money can make it appear as if God did not call you.

• Shortage of money can make you to sell your dignity for mere portage.

• Shortage of money can make you to lose your respect in ministry.

• Shortage of money can make a wife who is not well grounded in the spirit to start going after other men.

• Shortage of money of money can make you to submit to other gods.

The reason why it is sensitive is that many people feel strongly about it because of what they are going through financially.


⁃ Ignorance of God’s financial dealing with you.

⁃ Throwing away what is in your hands at the point of call, too early.

⁃ Going into what God did not call you into.

⁃ Lack of knowledge about how to go about your assignment.

⁃ Sin, which may dry up your source of funds.

⁃ A means of calling your attention to what God is saying.

⁃ Concentrating on wants instead of need in ministry.


1. ADAMS DEALING – A situation in which everything needed is provided without you asking. (Gen.2:8&9)

2. MOSES DEALING – A situation in which God would have so prepared the mind of people you are leading that they easily respond to your needs and requests. (Ex.35:4-7; 36:6-7)

3. PAUL’S DEALING – A situation in which you have to work to support the assignment that God has given you financially. (Act.20:34-35)


⁃ There is really no secular business for a minister of God, as you can use your business to advance the gospel.

⁃ Even your ministry assignment is a very serious business.

⁃ You must passionately believe in your business and be proud to tell anyone that cares to know, that you are in business.


• Giving God priority in timing.

• Giving God priority in tithing and involvement in kingdom projects.

• Diligence. (Prov.6:6-8; Prov.22:29)

• Thrift.

• Savings.

• Innovations.

• Using your business as a mission field.


Your vision need funds to be actualized. Consequently, except otherwise divinely directed, you may need to get yourself involved in one business or the other. God will never be against you doing a business, except when it clashes with His own interest by competing unfavorably with God’s assignment in your hands. Consequently, we must disabuse our mind from the mentality that a man of God must not do any secular business as God may even use your business to expand your territory of influence, at the same time, God may also use your ministry to open up honest business opportunities for you as a minister of God.


Dr. Mike Oluniyi.

(A talk during the Christ Apostolic Church, Oshinubi DCC church officers seminar, held on Saturday 24th September 2022)


The position or importance of the home in the life of church officers is a vital one which no church officer must not take with levity except at his or her own peril. One truth which is dawning in ministry today is that when you fail at home, you don’t really have a ministry. Although there are many areas in which church workers may have issues in life and ministry, but a truth which can not be denied is that problem at home speaks louder than any other problem in the life of a church worker or minister.

Your spouse is the most significant person in your life after God. This fact must always be remembered by you as you work for God, that your spouse comes before your ministry.

We shall look at seven reasons why you must take your marriage serious as a worker in His vineyard.


The Acceptability of Your Service by God Depends on it.

‘And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the LORD with tears, With weeping and crying; So He does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.  Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the LORD has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously;  Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant.’ (Mal.2:13-14)

When the situation at home is not acceptable to God, the acceptance of your service unto God becomes doubtful because God sees you as being half without your spouse.

Your Fulfillment in life Depends Heavily on Your Home.

Your fulfillment in life is heavily dependent on how you manage your home. When you are young, you may be able to run up and down doing ministry, but a time will come when you would have become advanced in age and will not be able to do all those activities any longer. Such a time will be a period of loneliness for you if you don’t invest in your home now.

Your Fulfillment in the Faith Depends on it.

Close to the end of the life of Apostle Paul, he was able to say in 2Timothy 4:7-8

‘I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing.’

Such statement came from someone who lived a fulfilled life of faith. If you don’t keep your home, you may not be able to make such a statement. Once you have chosen to marry, God expects you to keep your home to the end.

Your Recognition as a Role Model Depends on it.

As a worker in the vineyard of God, there are many children, both biological and spiritual that are looking up to you as a model. They learn a lot through the way that you are relating with your spouse. For that reason your spouse is important so that your relationship will not lead many astray.

Your Home is Like a Model to Your Children/ Disciples.

Whether you like it or not, as a leader, your home is like a model to your followers. If as a leader you don’t have a good home, it affects what you may teach others. If you have noticed it very well, you would have discovered that young couples during their wedding, under normal circumstances don’t choose someone with a broken home to be the chairman of their wedding.

Your Eternity May Depend on it.

Somehow, your eternity is connected with your spouse. You must have noticed that when there is no peace at home, it affects a lot of things, including your spiritual life.

‘Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.’ (1Peter 3:7)

If a problem at home may hinder your prayer, you must reason that anything that can hider your prayer life may hinder your eternity.

Your Home Is a Laboratory For Practicals.

All that you teach or stand for as a church officer will be tested at home. If you teach endurance, be sure that it will be tested at home.

When your spouse has offended you and you refuse to forgive, it means you have gone against the teachings of our savior Jesus Christ. He taught us in the Lord’ prayer that if you refuse to forgive those who offend you, you can’t be forgiven.


Knowing the importance of your spouse as a church worker, it means you must take the relationship between you and your spouse very serious. If you take it serious, you must be ready to fight and win the following battles for you to have a successful home.

The Battle of Contentment.

The battle of contentment is the battle you must fight and win to ensure that you are contented with your spouse. Even in church, you may come across members of the opposite sex that appears to be better than your spouse in one way or the other but you must always remember 1 Timothy 6:6

‘Now godliness with contentment is great gain.’ 

Lack of contentment is a breeding ground for many problems that can destroy your home.

The Battle of Faithfulness.

Even as worker in church, you will be tempted. If you are going to win the battle of faithfulness, you must make up your mind and guide it jealously that your nakedness will only be for your spouse. The scriptures both in the old and new testaments strongly goes against unfaithfulness. You must always remember that many that went into it did not plan it that way but they gradually slipped into it. Consequently, you must draw a line beyond which no member of the opposite sex except your spouse may cross.

The Battle of Ease.

Woe to you who are at ease in Zion, And trust in Mount Samaria,...(Amos.6:1)

The battle of ease is the battle which you personally wage against your home unknowingly when God has blessed you. You may never know a man that is faithful to God and his marital vows until money or success comes. Often it is when success comes that many men start seeing the deficiencies in their wives.

Often too, it is when a woman realizes that her husband is now a pastor and can’t go out that they start becoming unmanageable at home. When a woman assumes power either as a result of financial resources or marital security that they are too tired to provide food for their husband or start denying them of sex.

Compare the life of Solomon when he became king in 1kg.3:4-9 with when success had come in 1Kg.11:1-4.

Many people who were able to manage their homes during period of lack and uncertainties failed woefully when success came. Make up your mind that you will win the battle of ease.

The Battle of Sexual Realities.

The battle of sexual realities is the battle you fight to ensure that you and your spouse understand the sexual needs of one another and make the necessary sacrifices to manage it effectively to have a fulfilling marital relationship. Please note the following;

⁃ There is hardly any couple whose sexual needs precisely match one another. Consequently, it is not peculiar to you if your spouse’s demand for sex is higher than your own.

⁃ What turns a man on, is different from what turns a woman on.

⁃ In most cases, women are more resilient about sex than men.

⁃ As you age, there may be the need to adjust to changing sexual desires.

⁃ As you age also, you should not have the feeling that your spouse dies not need sex any longer. It may be a costly assumption.

The Battle of Rebuilding Trust.

In the life of every marital relationship, there are bound to be offenses. Often, the offense of your spouse may be very serious that even though it was settled and you claim to have forgiven, you still find it difficult to trust again. This is highly understandable especially in situations where your spouse has broken trust through adultery.

However serious the offense is, you must find a way of rebuilding trust, this is because a marriage without trust is no marriage at all. The journey of marriage is such a long journey that will take at least about two thirds of your lifetime. If for such a long period of time, you are going about not trusting one another, it will really be a burdensome journey.

Consequently, even when trust has been broken, it is recommended that you gradually build it up again, so that you marriage may be enjoyed by the two of you.

The Battle of Declining Attractions.

There are a lot of situations in which challenges come when you are already advancing in age. When age makes your spouse not to be able to do some of the things he or she used to do before, you must do everything possible to remain loyal to your marital vows. Your beautiful wife will grow old, your handsome husband will change with time, but you must always remember that anything may change, but you must not fail in your vow, to be available for one another till death do you part.

The Battle of The Anchor.

The battle of the anchor is the battle that you must fight and win to ensure that you don’t lose your faith in the face of the challenges of life that you may face in your marriage. In the life of every marriage, there are bound to be challenges. If anybody told you that there will be no challenge, the person must have deceived you. Jesus talking to Simon Peter said in Luke 22: 31-32;

“...Simon, Simon! Indeed, Satan has asked for you, that he may sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail;...”

You may be surprised that the only prayer that Jesus prayed for Peter in the face of the impending sifting of his life was that his faith would not fail. When your faith fails, it is like when the anchor that holds a ship steady in the storm has been removed. Anything can happen to such ship. May your anchor hold in the most turbulent period of your marriage in Jesus name.


Dear workers in the vineyard of the LORD, your home is so important for you as you serve the LORD. It is important for your own fulfillment in life, it is important for your children both spiritual and biological, it is important for the church of God and also for your eternity.

Sacrifice anything that needs to be sacrificed to keep it, may you succeed at it in Jesus name.


Dr. Mike Oluniyi.

(Being a message delivered during the Apostolic Leadership Summit, held on Monday 19th September 2022)

“And Samuel said unto all Israel, Behold, I have hearkened unto your voice in all that ye said unto me, and have made a king over you. And now, behold, the king walketh before you: and I am old and grayheaded; and, behold, my sons are with you: and I have walked before you from my childhood unto this day. Behold, here I am: witness against me before the LORD, and before his anointed: whose ox have I taken? or whose ass have I taken? or whom have I defrauded? whom have I oppressed? or of whose hand have I received any bribe to blind mine eyes therewith? and I will restore it you. And they said, Thou hast not defrauded us, nor oppressed us, neither hast thou taken ought of any man's hand. And he said unto them, The LORD is witness against you, and his anointed is witness this day, that ye have not found ought in my hand. And they answered, He is witness.” (1Sam.12:1-5)


What Is Integrity?

Integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. It is about being the same person when no one sees you and when you are in the midst of everyone that matters.

A minister of God who has integrity is a minister who will say the truth at all times and will not use the Holy Spirit to cover up dishonesty. Such a minister will strive to be morally upright in his dealings in and outside the ministry.

Today, many don’t respect ministers of God because we have lost trust. We have lost trust with both men and God because one of the major implications of lack of integrity is loss of trust.


(Psalm 24:3-4)

• The God whom you are representing through your calling is holy and dependable.

• You are a model to believers.

• You are a like a moral compass for unbelievers.

• Lack of integrity will bring you down from whatever level that God has ten you to in ministry.

• It helps you to deliver God’s message without fear of contradiction.

• It helps you not to give room for the accusation of the enemy.

• It helps to sustain your testimony.


• Saying the absolute truth.

• Can you be trusted with members of the opposite sex?

• Can you be trusted with money?

• Embellished exploits.

• Deceitful offerings.

• Deceitful alter calls.

• Your pronouncement on the altar, did God really say it?


• Ignorance of the gravity of the implications of lack of integrity.

• Many of us have become so familiar with God that we don’t fear Him any longer.

• We feel that prayer is more important than obedience.

• We feel that we are not in ministry until we are in it full time.

• Many of us are outside God’s genuine calling.

• Pride, position consciousness and embarking on things which you are really not capable of doing.

• We are covetous and lack the ability to wait for God’s time.


• Your ministry may be cut short.

• Your ministry may not make any mark.

• You may not have relevance as a result of lack of trust.

• You may lack helpers in ministry.

• You may lose your vision and become stunted in your spiritual growth.

• Breeding of dishonest followers.

• Inability to finish strong.


As ministers of God, we must realize the fact that one of the most important requirements of ministry is integrity. As you you are here today, be honest with yourself: Is there any area of life where you have to ask for God’s mercy and help? I think it will be wisdom for you to go ahead and beg God to have mercy on you. May you receive mercy in Jesus name.




His left hand is under my head,

and his right hand doth embrace me. (SS.2:6)

Yesterday, we started our discussion on matters arising from sex in marriage by looking at some basic truths regarding your sex life. Today we shall continue by looking further at more basic truths which you must always be mindful of.

Satisfying Sex Life Is One Major Index Of Healthy Marriage.

When the sex life of a couple is satisfactory, they are likely to be best of friends. A man that is sexually starved is very likely to overreact to situations that are connected with his wife, while a woman with an unsatisfying sexual life is usually very difficult to satisfy in any other way.

Sex With Your Spouse Is Not An Unclean Exercise, It Is God’s Idea.(Heb.13:4)

Sex within marriage is wholesome and scriptural. It is only when done outside marriage that sex becomes unclean and a sin that will have negative effect on your spiritual growth, stagnate or even destroy your ministry.

If You Don’t Handle The Issue Of Sex Appropriately In Your Home, You May Not Be Able To Counsel Other Couples Appropriately..

As you mature in marriage, you will often need to handle situations in which there will be need to talk to couples frankly about sex. If it is not carefully handled, you may end up creating unnecessary problems for those homes that you counsel. It is from the depth of your own experience in marriage that you are very likely to teach others.

Sex Outside Your Marriage Can Destroy Your Future And Prevent You From Finishing Strong.

Extramarital sex, for whatever reason, is like a poison which will appear pleasurable initially but will most certainly destroy your future in God. Every married man and woman must know that temptations will come especially as you become more and more successful in life.

If you want to be greatly used by God, you must realize that He is passionately against sexual immorality: (1Cor.6:18-19)

God May Choose To Teach You Vital Lessons Through Sex Challenges.

Often, periods of challenges with your spouse over sex may be used by God to point you to some valuable lessons for your journey in life and ministry.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse

• Discuss with your spouse the effect of satisfying sex life on quick resolution of conflicts.

• Do you agree that a satisfying sex life is an index of a happy home?

• Discuss with each other how you feel when denied of sex.

Prayer Point

Father help me to be desirous of satisfying my spouse in all areas of our marital life.



Mike Oluniyi.


Text: Gen.26:8-11


When Isaac had been there a long time, Abimelek king of the Philistines looked down from a window and saw Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah. (Gen.26:8)

One of the biggest problems in the life of many marriages is unfulfilled sexual life – a situation in which the wife of a man consistently denies him sexual satisfaction either in quantity or quality. On the other hand, there is also a growing number of women who are complaining of being denied sexual satisfaction by their husbands. One of the reasons why it is such a problem is that people don’t readily discuss this vital area of their marital life with others because it is by nature supposed to be private between husband and wife. Consequently, it takes high level of trust or setting in of frustration before most people will open up concerning their sexual life.

Many also hardly complain about it because there is hardly anyone to ‘safely’ complain to. This is because many of those that counsel have also not taken time to really study the fact that this is a key area in marriage. Many ministers of God will just counsel the woman to submit in everything to the husband but they fail to teach couples that sex to a woman is a matter of the heart – when a woman submits her body to you without her heart, it is as if you robbed her of something vital.

One major reason why the problem must be addressed is that unfulfilled sexual life has a way of affecting other areas of life, both marital and non-marital, negatively.

Following are some basic truths that you should always be mindful of about your marital sex life.

It Is Your Duty As Well As Your Deepest Expression Of Love.(1Cor.7:4-5)

Sexual intercourse with spouse is an important responsibility of the two parties in marriage. You owe it as a duty, once you are married, to make yourself available for sex with your spouse.

You must also know that when you make yourself available for sex with your spouse, it is one of deepest ways you can demonstrate that you love your spouse.

God Ordained Sex Not Just For Procreation But Also For Pleasure.(Pro.5:18-19)

You and your spouse must get to know that God invented sex not just for procreation but also for pleasure. Romance and sex with your wife is endorsed by the Bible.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse

• Discuss with your spouse what excites you about your sexual life and what frustrates you. Discuss also what the two of you can do to make your sex life more fulfilling.

• What is the place of romance in your relationship?

Prayer Point

Father help us in this home to make sex an instrument of love and unity rather than a source of constant argument and quarrels in Jesus’ name.



Mike Oluniyi.


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