When Isaac had been there a long time, Abimelek king of the Philistines looked down from a window and saw Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah. (Gen.26:8)
One of the biggest problems in the life of many marriages is unfulfilled sexual life – a situation in which the wife of a man consistently denies him sexual satisfaction either in quantity or quality. On the other hand, there is also a growing number of women who are complaining of being denied sexual satisfaction by their husbands. One of the reasons why it is such a problem is that people don’t readily discuss this vital area of their marital life with others because it is by nature supposed to be private between husband and wife. Consequently, it takes high level of trust or setting in of frustration before most people will open up concerning their sexual life.
Many also hardly complain about it because there is hardly anyone to ‘safely’ complain to. This is because many of those that counsel have also not taken time to really study the fact that this is a key area in marriage. Many ministers of God will just counsel the woman to submit in everything to the husband but they fail to teach couples that sex to a woman is a matter of the heart – when a woman submits her body to you without her heart, it is as if you robbed her of something vital.
One major reason why the problem must be addressed is that unfulfilled sexual life has a way of affecting other areas of life, both marital and non-marital, negatively.
Following are some basic truths that you should always be mindful of about your marital sex life.
It Is Your Duty As Well As Your Deepest Expression Of Love.(1Cor.7:4-5)
Sexual intercourse with spouse is an important responsibility of the two parties in marriage. You owe it as a duty, once you are married, to make yourself available for sex with your spouse.
You must also know that when you make yourself available for sex with your spouse, it is one of deepest ways you can demonstrate that you love your spouse.
God Ordained Sex Not Just For Procreation But Also For Pleasure.(Pro.5:18-19)
You and your spouse must get to know that God invented sex not just for procreation but also for pleasure. Romance and sex with your wife is endorsed by the Bible.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• Discuss with your spouse what excites you about your sexual life and what frustrates you. Discuss also what the two of you can do to make your sex life more fulfilling.
• What is the place of romance in your relationship?
Father help us in this home to make sex an instrument of love and unity rather than a source of constant argument and quarrels in Jesus’ name.
YOU ARE NOT DOING YOUR SPOUSE A FAVOUR WHEN YOU RESPOND POSITIVELY TO HIS OR HER SEXUAL ADVANCES, YOU ARE RATHER DOING YOUR HOME A FAVOUR.