DEPARTING FROM HOME
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,…(Gen.2:24a)
One of the major issues causing a lot of problems in many homes today is the inability or the difficulty of either of the partners in marriage to either physically or emotionally depart from home once married. Home here is used to refer to the parental and other relationships that were significant before marriage. It is definitely not a case of total severance from such relationships but you must give the relationship with your spouse a prime place and play down on those other relationships if you want to keep your home.
There are married men who though are married still prefer the food of their mother to that of their spouse because they feel that their mother can prepare their local delicacy better than their wife. Such men have not really departed from home, ditto for married women who must report anything going on in their home to their mother. Why don’t you as a man find a way of organizing a training for your wife to be able to cook that your native delicacy or otherwise forget eating that delicacy for now. In the case of a wife who reports to Mummy or Antie whatever is going on in her home, don’t forget that for a long time after you and your husband have sorted things out and moved on with your life, those you have reported to may continue to remind you of those ugly past that can only weaken your home.
Some of the problems that are associated with inability to depart from home are:
* Undue influence over your home by parents, friends or significant others who you find difficult to separate from.
* Difficulty to cleave to your spouse due to the fact that you have alternatives.
There are some categories of individuals that their family or friends don’t seem to find it easy allowing them to depart. They include first child, only male or female and the most prosperous child especially if the parents are looking up to him or her for sustenance.
Whatever may be the reason why you find it difficult to make your relationship with your spouse the first in your life, you must do something about it since you may not be able to cleave to your spouse if the other relationships in your life are competing with it. Our Lord Jesus Christ says,
…For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh (Matt.19:5)
Have you departed from home?
Discussion Points with your spouse
* Which are those other relationships in the life of your spouse that is affecting your home?
* Suggest to each other how to reduce the influence of such relationships.
WHEN AS A WIFE YOU HAVE TO REPORT YOUR HUSBAND TO YOUR MUM VIRTUALLY EVERY TIME; OR YOU ARE A HUSBAND WHO BELIEVES THAT YOUR MUM’S SOUP IS MORE DELICIOUS THAN THAT OF YOUR WIFE, IT MEANS YOU HAVE NOT REALLY DEPARTED FROM HOME. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi.