CELEBRATING YOUR SPOUSE: THE CHALLENGE OF MUTUAL LOVE
This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
Something must keep attracting you to your spouse for your marriage to succeed. For any home to stand, there is need to remember the beginnings of your relationship and keep working on your love for each other over and over again. Think about what you have been able to achieve together; think about your children; think about those qualities that God has endowed his or her life with.
Any man can fall in love, but it takes real men to sustain love.
Times will come in the lifetime of your relationship, when you will see more beautiful, handsome, intelligent, sexy, rich and probably even more ‘God-fearing’ people than the one you have married. At such times, it must be a matter of the head and not a matter of the heart for you to sustain your marriage. No matter how you feel for that other person, your spouse whom you have committed yourself to, ranks first in your life. You must understand that commitment is greater than feelings. You must identify traits in your spouse that will make you to sustain your love for him/ her. Your spouse must also do likewise, so it must be mutual for the love to be sustained.
One of the things I appreciate most in my wife is her attention to details. I keep thanking God every time for her because I don’t know what my life, business and ministry would have been without her. Details that I have long forgotten whether financial or in other areas of life are at her fingertips. She is a good complement to my own kind of personality who does not really pay attention to details. There is definitely an area where your spouse complements you. When you remember those unique qualities that God has endowed your spouse with, you cannot but keep falling in love with each other over and over again.
If you want to sustain your love, one habit that you must run away from is that of comparing your spouse with another person’s spouse somewhere. It may be true that there are certain areas where that other person’s spouse is better at but it is also very likely that there are certain things that your spouse can do better than your object of comparison.
Celebrate your spouse!
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• Can you still remember what attracted you to your spouse that made you to propose or say ‘yes’ when you met? Do you still value it in your spouse?
• What are the unique qualities you have discovered in him/ her after marriage?
• Imagine being given the opportunity to live your life all over again, will you still marry your spouse?
My father and my God, open my eyes more to those unique qualities which you have embedded in my spouse in Jesus’ name.
ANY MAN CAN EASILY FALL IN LOVE, BUT IT TAKES A RESPONSIBLE MAN TO SUSTAIN LOVE.