2021
You Must Learn To Live With The Weakness Or The Imperfections Of Your Spouse. Couples Companion Day 11
You Must Learn To Live With The Weakness Or The Imperfections Of Your Spouse.
Main text: 2 Cor.12:7-10
Memory:
2 Corinthians 12:9
‘And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.’
Think about your spouse very well; it is very likely that there is something in him or her you would not have put, if you were God that created him or her.
There is no perfect wife neither is there any perfect husband anywhere. For you to have a successful marriage, there must be an imperfection that you have to live with in your spouse. If you see any ‘perfect’ couple, the success in their home is not as a result of absence of weaknesses in either or both of the spouses but as a result of having learnt to live with those traits in their spouse that they don’t like.
Maybe as a lady, you hate someone who snores, but as you slept after your wedding you heard the sound of snoring as if a trailer is ascending a hill, what will you do? If it is particularly difficult for your spouse to stop snoring, it will be better for snoring to become sweet music that lures you to sleep. If you don’t, you will definitely not enjoy your marriage.
Some imperfections may actually be a blessing in disguise. God can use the weak things of the world to achieve great things.
But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to
confound the wise … (1 Cor. 1:27-29)
You will be doing yourself a great deal of good if you can learn to live with the weakness or imperfection in your spouse. Come to think of it, there is also one in you, being accommodated by your spouse. Many homes have broken down because of intolerance. The unfortunate part of it is that if you allow your home to collapse as a result of it, your next spouse will not have the same imperfection but will definitely have her own which may be worse than the one you tried to avoid. That’s the reason why many end up having several marriages in their single lifetime.
The following are some of the reasons why many fail to accept the imperfections of their spouses:
1. They are yet to realize that they themselves are not perfect.
2. They are into extra-marital affairs.
3. They are comparing their spouse with someone else.
4. They are regretting marrying their spouse.
5. They are having the erroneous impression that their friend’s spouse is perfect.
6. They fail to realize that what they abhor in their spouse may actually be a blessing in disguise.
7. Unforgiveness.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• Is there any area of imperfection in your spouse that you are yet to accept?
• What do you think is making it difficult for you to accept it?
• What is the imperfection that you have been able to perfectly adjust to in your spouse?
PRAYER
I receive the grace to perfectly accept my spouse without any reservations in Jesus name.
QUOTABLE QUOTE
IF YOU DIVORCE YOUR SPOUSE BECAUSE OF A PROBLEM WHICH YOU DISCOVERED IN HER, THE ‘ANGEL’ THAT WILL REPLACE HER WILL NOT COME IN WITH THAT PARTICULAR PROBLEM BUT WITH A BRAND NEW SET OF PROBLEMS – Mike Oluniyi.
