Main text: Eccl. 4:9-12.
Memory: Ecclesiastes 4:12
‘And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.’
God loves variety. In all marriages, the husband and wife are differently gifted, so what is missing in one is embedded in the other. Any marriage that can overcome every inhibition to be ‘lone rangers’ and combine the potentials in the two members is bound to achieve great things.
The covenant of marriage is also a very powerful covenant. When you do anything in agreement with your spouse, it appears that God backs it up and it comes out successfully. Consequently, agreement is very important in marriage.
If you can strive in your home to reach an agreement in whatever step you are about to take, especially business or ministry decisions, you will discover the power of unity in the home. I have noticed that in any business where the husband and wife are in partnership, the success rate is very high.
Agreeing in the family is however often easier said than done. As a man, your ego may often prevent you from doing things in agreement with your wife. As a wife too, there are potentially internal and external factors that may be inhibiting you from doing things in agreement with your husband.
Agreement on any matter before embarking on it improves your rate of success in any endeavor and in turn contributes to the success of the home because you will need each other to take every important decisions. Once you are married, God looks at you both as operating a joint account with Him. Can you imagine the difficulty of trying to singularly withdraw money from such account without your co-signatory?
‘And this is the second thing you do:
You cover the altar of the Lord with tears,
With weeping and crying;
So He does not regard the offering anymore,
Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.’
(Malachi 2: 13 &14)
Your dependence on each other, fostered by the desire to agree on issues, do improve communication and strengthen the home. When you depend on each other, it increases the chances of success in whatever you are doing and has great impact on the success of your marriage.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• What are the obstacles you have identified preventing you from joint decision making in your home.
• What steps can you take to eliminate such obstacles.
LORD, I come against every obstacle that has been preventing us from taking decisions together in this home in Jesus’ name.
WHEN YOU DECIDE ON ANY MATTER IN AGREEMENT WITH YOUR SPOUSE, THE QUALITY OF YOUR DECISION APPRECIATES.