Main Text: Rom.12:18-19
Memory:
If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.(Rom.12:18)

When there is a conflict and it is not properly managed, it grows deeper and deeper until it eventually becomes unmanageable. The effects are numerous but the problem with most couples in conflict is that they don’t really take time to consider its potential effect on their lives, members of their family and the society at large. The more the conflict deteriorates, the more damaging the effects are, not only on the couple but on others especially their children. Some of the effects are:
Loss of peace
Wasted resources
Loneliness
Unfulfilled life
Negative effect on children
Spiritual paralysis
Mental and physical torture which may lead to high blood pressure and untimely death
Divorce
Extramarital affairs

In other word, the effects of unresolved conflict are devastating on the physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing of the husband and the wife. It may eventually lead to separation or divorce.
Perhaps the most important thing to know about the effect of marital conflict is that its effect is beyond the parties involved. It affects the children, the church and the society at large. For instance, a woman who is not at peace with her husband will very likely visit her frustration on whoever comes her way.

Another thing to note is that the more you allow the conflict to linger, the more damaging the effects may be on the home and those that are connected to the family.

Also, when there is conflict at home, your ability to make decisions that are based on the considered opinion and agreement between the two of you is seriously hampered. Your business decisions and other decisions will be of higher quality if you and your spouse are in agreement, taking joint decisions. Hear this scripture:

…One shall chase a thousand but two shall put ten thousand to flight…(Deut.32:30)

Consequently, when you are in conflict with your spouse, you are denying yourself of that power of agreement that God has put between husband and wife. You will be chasing a thousand instead of putting ten thousand to flight.

Finally, when there is conflict with your spouse, you run the risk of unanswered prayers. There is awesome spiritual power and potency in marital unity.

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1Pet.3:7)

As a conclusion, let it be known that the effect of conflicts can be devastating on you, your spouse, children, society and your relationship with God. For this reason, though conflicts are inevitable in marital relationships, you must do everything possible to nip it in the bud before it grows and becomes something that will destroy vital relationships in your life.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* As you reflect, what are the factors that has helped you in managing conflicts in your home.
* What are some of the effects you notice whenever there is conflict between you and your spouse?

PRAYER
Father I receive the grace to overcome every obstacle to peace in my home in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
CONFLICT DEGENERATES BECAUSE MOST COUPLES DON’T KNOW THE POTENTIAL DAMAGING EFFECTS IT MAY HAVE ON THEIR HOME. Dr. Mike Oluniyi.

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