Text: Prov.5:18-20
MEMORY:
Let thy fountain be blessed:
and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe;
let her breasts satisfy thee at all times;
and be thou ravished always with her love. (Prov.5:18-19)

Today, we are looking at physical intimacy which is what comes to the mind of most people when they hear the word “intimate.” Physical intimacy strengthens the bond between couples and fosters closeness, love and affection between them. Though it includes sexual intimacy, it is not limited to it. Since we have already dealt with sex earlier, we are going to concentrate on non-sexual physical intimacy today. Non-sexual physical intimacy which you may explore to foster closeness, love and affection with your spouse include the following:
• Holding the hands of your partner.
• Caressing your partner’s neck.
• Kissing your partner.
• Nibbling your partner’s ear.
• Walking with your arms around your partner’s waist.
• Cuddling each other.
• Sitting close enough to be physically in touch with any part of your partner’s body.
• Briefly rubbing your partner’s back.
• Playing footsie with your partner.


All the above non-sexual physical intimacy activities often lead to sexual activity but it doesn’t always have to, which in fact, is one of the biggest complaints for women.
Men often take any physical intimacy as a sign that women want sexual intimacy, when sometimes they just need a touch or cuddle. Of all the types of intimacy, this is the one that most men find interesting. Men typically feel the most connected when sexual physical intimacy is highest. It is worthy of note that apart from engendering closeness, men may actually use the non-sexual physical intimacy activities to lure their wives to sexual activity. Though the woman is not interested in sex initially, appropriate use of any of the activities may be used to romantically lure a woman to be desirous of sexual activity. Our memory verses for today also show that God expects man to delight in these activities with his wife.

It is important for men to note that non-sexual physical intimacy doesn’t necessarily have to lead to sex. If all your wife just need is to physically feel your touch or cuddle, let it be. When you always interpret your wife’s desire for your touch to mean desire for sex, it may make her to always refrain from getting close physically to you. Such a situation may drive couples apart instead of closer to each other which may become a problem in relationship.

DISCUSSION POINTS WITH YOUR SPOUSE
• In what ways have physical intimacy generally enhanced connection between you and your spouse?
• Tell each other which of the non-sexual physical activities is most appealing to you.

PRAYER
I receive wisdom to use the most appropriate means to excite my spouse and drive us closer to each other in Jesus’ name.


QUOTABLE QUOTE
PHYSICAL INTIMACY IS SO VITAL IN MARRIAGE THAT THE ABSENCE OF IT MAY SPELL DOOM FOR YOUR MARITAL RELATIONSHIP. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi

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