Main Text. 1Cor.10:8-13
No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. (1Cor.10:13)
Why do you need to have self discipline in sex matters? The following are some of the reasons why it is vital.
The scriptures commands it.
In the Old as well as New Testaments, the scriptures strictly warn against sexual immorality (Ex.20:18; 1Cor.6:18). You should always remember that the most important requirement for a life of impact with God is obedience. If you call yourself a child of God, you are simply deceiving yourself if you are not obedient.
The covenant of marriage demands it.
The covenant of marriage is a very powerful covenant. In it, before God and His church, you have given yourself over to your husband or wife and to no one else. If you are not self disciplined, there is no way that you will not break this covenant. If you know the meaning of covenant and the fact that God takes covenant breaking so seriously, you will avoid extramarital affairs by all means. (Rom.1:29-32)
Your spiritual development demands it.
If you are not self disciplined, sometimes your spouse will deny you sex and you will do things that will draw you back in your spiritual development. Immorality is one of the greatest sources of spiritual stuntedness in the life of many.
Your health demands it.
If you are not self disciplined, you may expose yourself and your spouse to a wide range of health challenges. AIDS and other devastating contagious sexually transmitted diseases may be contracted through illicit sexual affairs.
Fairness to your spouse demands it.
Can you imagine discovering your spouse cheating on you? If you will not feel good about it, you should put yourself in the position of your spouse whenever you are tempted and be fair to him / her. So, fairness to your spouse demands that you should be self disciplined about sexual temptations.
Commitment to those you lead demands it.
If you are a responsible leader you must be able to teach your followers the right principles through your own way of life. Consequently, your commitment to those you lead demands that you discipline yourself in sexual matters.
Your desire to finish strong demands it.
Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: …(Eccl.7:8)
Heavenly rewards are reserved for those who are able to deny themselves of unrighteous gratifications which the devil brings through diverse temptations in the process of walking with God (2Tim.4:7&8). So, you need self discipline because finishing strong demands it.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• Never be too sure that you can’t fall into sexual immorality! You have your unguarded moments which the devil may capitalize on. What are some steps which you feel you need to take so that you don’t fall?
• Do you feel there is anything your spouse is doing which may expose him/ her to sexual temptations?
I receive the grace for self discipline so that I will never fall into sexual immorality in Jesus’ name.
THE COST OF IMMORALITY ON YOUR MARRIAGE IS SO HIGH THAT YOU MAY NOT FINISH PAYING IT THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFETIME. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi