Main Text: Heb.13:4-6
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. (Heb.13:4)
One of the greatest battles which you must fight and win in marriage is the battle of faithfulness. However attractive your spouse may be, you will discover other members of the opposite sex that are more“desirable” at one point or the other in your marital journey.
You may just find such people irresistible. There are also some of them that are the ones that find a way of getting themselves attached to you unknowingly, probably by lending helping hand in a special way. Many men have fallen into such traps before they realized it.
Apart from those who fall into immorality through carelessness, many that are caught in adultery appear to do it because of apparent lack of satisfaction or as retaliation for a spouse who has also been unfaithful. However, it is important for you to know that nothing is significant enough to justify you going into adultery.
One of the greatest dangers of adultery is that when you are involved in it, your spouse becomes less and less attractive to you, since you would have found an alternative in the other man or woman. It may also appear as if nobody is qualified to advice you as something will be telling you that you are mature enough to take your own decisions. To cover your tracks, you may also become a serial liar.
Running away from adultery appears to be one of the greatest duties you owe your spouse and God. Before you get involved, think about the following:
• It may appear easy to start an extramarital relationship but it may not be easy to stop.
• The relationship you are about going into may be the poison that will kill your marriage and destroy the relationship between you and your spouse and children forever.
• It is a matter of time, the potential alternative to your spouse will come with a new set of problems.
• When you mar the story of your marriage with unfaithfulness, you may no longer be the model that your children will look up to in the future.
• There is no how you will be unfaithful that you will be able to earn the trust of your spouse 100% again.
• A lot of stories of extra-marital affairs always end in regret.
• Consider the fact that no adulterer will make heaven.
The battle of faithfulness is therefore a battle that you must win if you desire to have a successful home.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* In your own view what are the dangers associated with unfaithfulness in marriage?
* Remind yourselves of a case of adultery in a family you know and how it ended.

PRAYER
Father, may I never lose the battle of faithfulness in my marriage in Jesus’ name.
(468 words)

ILLUSTRATION
AN UNFAITHFUL SPOUSE FINDS IT INCREDIBLY EASY TO MANUFACTURE LIES.

DAY 41

THE BATTLE OF DECLINING FORTUNES IN MARRIAGE
Main Text: Prov.24:10-12
If thou faint in the day of adversity,
thy strength is small. (Prov.24:10)
Life is full of ups and downs. In the life of a marriage, there is likely to be a time when things won’t work out as scheduled. It may be loss of job, sickness, lack or any unexpected occurrence which suddenly throws you a situation in which you cannot meet up with the target you have set for yourself as a family. No one prays for this kind of situation but it is a battle that must be won when it comes.
The marriage vows taken by the bride and groom on wedding day says;
‘I [name], take you [name], to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness, in health; to love and to cherish from this day forward until death do us part’

Though many churches today have changed the vows to reflect only the good aspect of married life, believing that saying the other side is like a curse but is it really so? In marriage, just as there is health, there is sickness; not just physical sickness but also financial sickness and all kinds of sicknesses which nobody prays for but they come.

TheSome facts to remember when your family is going through the period of declining fortunes:

Main Text: Isa.54:15-17
Memory:
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. (Is.54:17)

A lot of battles that we fight in marriage are really spiritual battles which we ignorantly fight physically. However, anyone who fights a spiritual battle physically is bound to lose.
You may not believe that there are spiritual forces or supernatural arrows that may be sent to scatter your marriage but it does not negate the fact that they exist. Following are some of the sources of the arrows:
– Those you might have offended.
– Those that just envy the way you and your spouse lovingly relate with each other.
– Those who desire to have you or your spouse.
– The arrows may come from home – your own relatives or those of your spouse having the feeling that the unity in your home is so strong that you or your spouse is not paying adequate attention to them.
– It may be from your competitors who feel that your life will be disorganized once your home is destroyed.
– It may be due to an unbroken curse.
– Finally, spiritual attack may be attracted to you through your past or present ways of life or even that of your parents. A man who has been married for twelve years without any child went for prayers and it was revealed to him that he was cursed by his former girlfriend whom he impregnated but rejected the pregnancy. During the pains of delivery, the lady cursed him that if really he was the one that impregnated her, he would not experience the joy of fatherhood until he returned to claim the child.

So, the battle of principalities and powers can only be fought spiritually. Therefore, if you notice an abnormal trend in your family,
1. Pray for discernment
2. Pray on steps to be taken
3. If there is need for restitution, take step
4. Pray for deliverance
5. If it is an inherited curse, declare yourself and entire family free by using relevant scriptures

In fact, you should not even wait until you experience the battle before you start soaking your spouse and entire home in the blood of Jesus and declaring your home a forbidden territory for the devil.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Carefully look at your home. Is there anything happening or a trend you need to pray about in the light of the above?

PRAYER
Father, make me spiritually sensitive so that I won’t be fighting spiritual battles physically in my marriage in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
ANYONE WHO FIGHTS SPIRITUAL BATTLE PHYSICALLY IN A MARRIAGE WILL LOSE THE BATTLE OVER HIS HOME

Main text: Lk.22:31-32
Memory:
But I have prayed for thee, that thy faith fail not: … (Lk.22:32a)

The battle of the anchor is the battle which you must fight in your marriage to ensure that you don’t lose your faith. When the anchor of a ship is in place, it cannot be drifted away by the turbulence of the sea. Your faith in God serves as the anchor which holds you steady when the storms of life come. One basic fact of life is that it won’t always be rosy. While we pray that it will always be beautiful, ugly situations you don’t pray for will rear its ugly head. These ugly situations are often so distressing that you may take the wrong steps if you lose faith in your God. However, if your anchor is in place, there are numerous assurances from the word of God which will keep you steady so that you won’t be swept away by the turbulent times. That is the message to you in the following scriptures:
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. (Jn.16:33)
When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkestthrough the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. (Is.43:2)

The devil will definitely try some pranks with your home since he knows that spiritually stable homes are not easily manipulated by him. He will do everything practically possible to bring violent storms that will threaten the ship of your marriage. This should not be surprising to you anyway. After all, the scriptures have this to say about him:
The thief cometh not, but for to steal and to kill, and to destroy. I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly [John 10:10]

You should know and be convinced that whatever may come your way must have been experienced by another person even in a worse manner. You must also know that every problem has an expiry date. If only you can remain connected to your God, a time will come when the matter will become a testimony that you may share to encourage others.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• If you are going to be sincere with yourselves, will you say that you have the anchor? In other word, have you given your life to Jesus Christ?
• If you have given your life to Him, how will you describe your level of faith in His ability to handle all difficult situations in your life and home?

PRAYER
My father and my God, may my faith in you never fail in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
WITHOUT THE ANCHOR OF YOUR FAITH, THE SHIP OF YOUR MARRIAGE EASILY DRIFTS TOWARDS DESTRUCTION. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi

Main Text: Amos 6:1-2
Memory:
Woe to you who are at ease in Zion, And trust in Mount Samaria,…(Amos 6:1)

The battle of ease is the kind of battle that is personally waged against your marriage ignorantly by you yourself when you feel that you have ‘arrived’. This battle is self-inflicted and so it is a difficult battle since you may not even be aware that you are the one waging the war against your home.
As human beings, we often manage success with carelessness. When God has blessed us, we have the feeling that the success is due to our wisdom and therefore often become proud and ungovernable and start going after what we should not really pursue. We often fail to realize that our success is by the mercy of God. Many who kept their homes through the period of lack, often fail when success comes. You may not know a man that is faithful to God and his marriage vows until success comes. A man who appeared to love his wife during the period that he is struggling may start seeing the faults that were not visible to him when God blesses him with a good car and considerable income. A woman may also ignorantly cause her home a lot of damage when success comes. The battle of ease must be fought and won so that the story of your marital life that started well will end well.
How To Win The Battle Of Ease
• Have a mentor that your spouse can report you to because the battle of ease creates an illusion of invincibility around you which makes you to feel too important for anyone to talk to.
• Humble yourself as it will help you to win the battle of ease.
• Be grateful to God; many that are better than you have ended up with bitter stories.
• Make up your mind that you will always be open to the counsel of your spouse.
• Put God first and be prayerful.
• Be careful of the friends you keep.
• Make up your mind that when success comes, you will remain faithful to God and to your marital vows.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Is there any way that the above message is referring to either of you?
* Just in case there is need to do so, is there any one you respect, to whom your spouse may report you and you will do what he or she asked you to do unquestionably?

PRAYER
Father, at any level of prosperity that you may take me to, let me remain humble so that I will not lose the battle of ease in Jesus’ name.
(For further reading; Deut.8:11-18)

QUOTABLE QUOTE
YOU MAY NEVER KNOW A MAN THAT IS FAITHFUL TO HIS MARITAL VOWS UNTIL GOD BLESSES HIM WITH MONEY; NOR A WOMAN THAT IS SUBMISSIVE UNTIL SHE ASSUMES POWER.- Dr. Mike Oluniyi

Main Text:1Tim.6-7
Memory:
Now godliness with contentment is great gain. (1Tim.6:6)

The battle of contentment is all about being contented with your spouse. Marriage creates a world of reality around you, the characteristics of which is peculiar to your own family alone. You will be doing your home a lot of good if you recognize these realities because if you fail to do so, it will be detrimental to the success of your home. The features of other families are different from your own. When you look at what God or circumstances have packaged into another family, that family may appear to be more blessed than your own. Covetousness often comes in naturally as you look at your family and conclude that God has not been fair to you. It is a real battle to prevent yourself and/or your spouse from unnecessary pressures that result from trying to catch up, take possession or bring down others.
There are several reasons why you may need to fight and win the battle of contentment. Some of them are:
– Lack of contentment will make you to be blind to the good features of your marriage.
– If you are not contented with your spouse, you can’t enjoy your family.
– When you are not contented with your family, it will make the home environment to be filled with uncertainty and fear of the next thing that might happen.
– You will see nothing wrong in being cruel and violent against your spouse because you are already obsessed with another person.
– Lack of contentment may expose your life and that of your family members to a lot of dangers.
– It may lead you to doing things that a child of God would not have done.
– It is very difficult for a covetous person to maintain good relationship with God as a result of ungrateful heart.

In other to win the battle of contentment, you may need to note the following:
• Always look at your spouse as the best thing that can ever happen to you.
* Be grateful to God about the circumstances of your family.
• Remember that your spouse, if possessed by another person, would be celebrated despite all the shortcomings you might have discovered in him or her.
• Remember always that one of the most expensive ventures in life is divorce. One may not know how expensive it is until he goes into it.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Look at something in your spouse that makes him or her the best gift that God has ever given you.
* What do you feel should have been mentioned above as one of the reasons why you must win the battle of contentment.

PRAYER
My father and my God, I receive the grace to win the battle of contentment in my home. Let my spouse remain always attractive to me in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
IF YOU ARE NOT CONTENTED WITH YOUR SPOUSE, IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE YOU DRIFT AWAY FROM HOME. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi