CAUSES OF SEXUAL PROBLEMS IN THE HOME(3): OTHER CAUSES: Couples Companion Day 19
Main text: 1Cor.7:3-5
Memory: 1Cor.7:5
Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
* The Need To Stay ‘Pure’ During Fasting etc.
As much as it is needful to fast and pray, the need to carry your spouse along can also not be overemphasized.
* Non-readiness for foreplay.
Many men lack the tenderness or the patience to initiate romance that a woman requires to be turned on for sex.
* Punishment, With Confidence That Nothing Could Happen.
Never forget that your spouse may become more vulnerable to temptations if sufficiently or consistently denied sexual fulfillment at home.
* Impotence Or Erectile Dysfunction.
Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction ED is the inability on the part of a man to achieve or sustain an erection for a satisfactory sexual activity. It becomes more common as you get older but it is not a natural part of aging. ED is treatable but has serious effect on the ego of a man and it may grow worse if the wife does not handle such situation with understanding and encouragement.
* High Incidence Of Absence From Home Due To Career Demands.
Frequent or prolonged absence from home as a result of career demands also results in lack of sexual fulfillment for many spouses.
* Inability Or Unreadiness To Forgive.
Without been intentional, inability to forgive partners of offenses may also greatly contribute to sexual problems in the home.
* Life-Altering Trauma.
A woman that was raped or sexually abused when she was young may keep reliving that experience and may even be seeing her husband as someone who may also assault her. A woman who had a life-threatening or disfiguring health challenge such as mastectomy after breast cancer, though the operation was successful, may feel disconnected from sexuality.
* Painful Intercourse.
There are some women who experience pains during sexual intercourse as a result of a medical condition called virginismus. Also, lack of desire may prevent the lubrication of the private parts of the woman which may make sexual intercourse painful for her.
* Other Medical Issues.
Low hormone levels, blood flow problems, depression or medication side effects may lead to erectile dysfunction ED in men and low sexual desire in women. A lot of the drugs you use, unknown to you, have side effects which may negatively impact your sexual capability.
* Faulty Perception Of The Opposite Sex.
A woman who grew up in a family where her mother was badly treated may grow up with the impression that men are generally wicked, consequently affecting her desire for sex.
* Bringing Workplace Challenges To The Bedroom.
When you come home greatly bothered about the challenges experienced at your place of work, you may not feel like initiating romance and even when it is initiated by your spouse, it may be met by rebuff from you.
* Loss Of The First Love.
Sex is an emotional matter for a woman. When she has been emotionally wounded by her husband, it may be difficult for her to respond to her husband’s sexual advances.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• With a careful look at your relationship with your spouse, discuss the factors that have been responsible for poor response to sex from you in the past.
• Did you bother to let your spouse know your feelings?
• In what ways do you think that your spouse may help you towards the reduction or elimination of such problems?
• Is there any challenge you are having with sex which you have not discussed with your spouse?
PRAYER
I come against every obstacle against sexual fulfillment in my marriage in Jesus’ name.
(644 words)
QUOTABLE QUOTE
IT IS USUALLY COVETOUSNESS THAT MAKES YOU TO SEE GREENER PASTURES OUTSIDE YOUR HOME. WAIT AND WET YOUR BROWN PASTURE; IT WILL SOON BECOME GREEN. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi
