2021
COUPLES COMPANION.
DAY 4
CLEAVING TO YOUR SPOUSE
Text: Gen.2:21-24.
Memory
…and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh. (Gen. 2:24b)
Cleaving together means closeness between you and your spouse. Cleaving requires you to remove all obstacles that may prevent you from becoming very close to your spouse. Such obstacles may include human beings, beliefs, practices etc. Nothing, (including your children) should come between you and your spouse. The closer you are, the better for your relationship.
Newlyweds usually, due to the excitement of the new world of the marital union, find it easy to cleave. During such times, they are hardly seen separately; they do things in common and there is high level of intimacy. However, it appears as if the older the union is, especially as children arrive, the higher the tendency for attention to shift from your spouse to your children and other matters.
We must never forget that the plan of God for marriage is that we should be together. Any job that will separate you from your spouse for a considerable period of time should be given a second thought because the havoc it causes in the home is much more than the apparent gain. Any habit or practice that also affects the closeness between husband and wife must be at least minimized for cleaving to take place.
If you fail to cleave now, a time will come when only two of you will be left and by that time, it will be too late to close the gap, leading to loneliness during old age.
For you to be able to cleave to your spouse, the obstacle which you have to do away with may be unique to you and your home but the most important thing is that it must be addressed. One of the practices which will encourage closeness between you and your spouse is doing things in common. Sleeping, bathing, eating, going out together, all contribute to making you to become one. The more you do things together, the more dependent you will be on each other and consequently, the greater the cleaving.
Discussion Points With Your Spouse
• What are some of the perceived obstacles to cleaving in your marriage?
• Often due to economic considerations, a husband or wife travels away to far distances leaving the other members of the family. What are the problems which you feel may arise when there is consistent and considerable physical distance between husband and wife?
Prayer Point
Lord, give us the wisdom and will to address those obstacles that prevent cleaving in our relationship in Jesus’ name.
QUOTABLE QUOTE.
IF YOU ARE NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO REMOVE ANY OBSTACLE PREVENTING ONENESS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE, THEN THERE IS A QUESTION MARK ON THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR YOUR SPOUSE.
