Main Text: 1Pet.3:1-7
Memory:
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.(1Pet.3:7)

The most significant and constant person in your life is your spouse. By reason of tenure, which in most cases is for at least two thirds of your entire lifetime, and closeness, your spouse is the person that will make the greatest impact in your life whether for good or otherwise. It is therefore a relationship that you should handle with utmost care.
The above is so true in the life of any person but in the life of a minister of God, it is more so. The success or otherwise of any vision depends to a large extent on the spouse and the home of the visionary. A problem in the marriage of any committed Christian or a minister of God speaks louder than any other problem in his life and ministry.
If you are reading this and you have a contrary opinion, you are likely to belong to one of the categories below:
• Your are divorced or separated.
• Your home is in disarray.
• You have an alternative attraction to your spouse.
• The trust you have in your spouse has been eroded.
• You have unwholesome friends.
• You have a questionable foundation in ministry.
• You don’t understand the reason why your spouse is such a problem for you in ministry.
• You married against the will of God.

If you are in any of the categories above, you may not readily agree that your spouse is the most important person in your life and ministry. However, your present challenges do not in anyway negate the fact that, after your relationship with God, the most significant person in your ministry is your spouse. You must therefore give the relationship between you and your spouse the prime place it demands.

It is however also equally important to note that there is no situation in which all hope is lost in your marriage. Even if it appears that things have broken down beyond acceptable levels, God can still do something about your home if He is invited in.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Is there any issue that has affected the position of your spouse in your heart?
* If you are experiencing any challenges in your ministry or any other life endeavor in relation to your spouse, try to be frank with each other as to the reasons why it is so.

PRAYER
My father and God, I receive the grace to relate positively with my spouse so as to bring out the best in him or her as the greatest help for my vision to be actualized in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
BY REASON OF TENURE, WHICH IS USUALLY ABOUT TWO THIRDS OF YOUR ENTIRE LIFETIME, YOUR SPOUSE WILL BE THE MOST CONSTANT AND SIGNIFICANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. -Dr. Mike Oluniyi

Main Text: Lk.15:11-19
Memory:
…the younger son gathered all together, journeyed to a far country, and there wasted his possessions with prodigal living. (Lk.15:13.
This is also one of those battles that are self-inflicted in marriage. The prodigal son in the scripture above felt that he had so much wealth which he could spend anyhow and still have leftover but he was soon faced with one of the harsh realities of life: when you don’t spend wisely, your resources will develop wings and fly away.
There are many who are not able to achieve their life-goals because of overspending in areas where they should have been modest. You must avoid being a spouse that demands for ephemeral things instead of encouraging his or her partner to achieve concrete things. When purchasing things, you must distinguish between assets and liabilities. Assets create wealth while liabilities consume wealth. If you insist on moving out of your rented two-bedroom flat to a rented luxurious bungalow, you should realize as well that the luxury bungalow you are craving for may be the liability that will prevent you from building your own house.
Never assume that money will continue to be in abundance just as you are having it presently; save for the rainy day.
Spend the little money you have today wisely. Some people driving expensive cars today are not aware that they are driving away their future and the future of their children. Some people carrying iphone7 today may not be aware that they are carrying their future.
When you are young, don’t just spend money. Invest it. Every penny in your hand is like a seed, you can decide to eat it, or sow it. When you sow it, it will bear much more seeds later in future.
To win the battle of extravagance and misplaced priorities, you must invest in assets and not liabilities and encourage your spouse to do so. You must ensure that there is a need for something before you purchase it. You must also make efforts and encourage your spouse to save somehow. Ensure that you also don’t go into debt unnecessarily. Don’t be easily carried away by offer of credit when you are purchasing anything. The creditor may appear to be doing you a favour when giving you items on credit but the money has to be paid back usually with open or hidden interest.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* As a family, have we mostly been spending more on assets or on liabilities?
* Is there any investment we should have made but we have not made because of extravagance?

PRAYER
I receive the grace to win the battle of extravagance / wastage in marriage in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
IF YOU DON’T TREAT YOUR RESOURCES AS A COMFORTABLE GUEST, THEY WILL LEAVE YOU FOR OTHERS THAT ARE MORE ACCOMMODATING. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi

Main Text: Matt.7:7-12
Memory.
Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets. (Matthew 7:12 KJV)

The battle of the in-laws has to do with those challenges you face in marriage as a result of faulty relationship with the relatives of your spouse.
One of the major causes of the battle of in-laws is the difficulty of letting go. If your spouse belongs to a family in which he or she occupies a significant position, i.e. the firstborn or last-born, the only male or female or the only one that has prospered in the family, it may be difficult for the family to let go. The spouse of such a person is seen as a competitor who has come to take away their own. In such a situation, it is difficult to please the family members.
Another cause of the battle of the in-laws is the inability to come to the realization that despite being the most significant person in the life of your spouse, you alone can’t really own him or her. Your spouse must give you and the children priority but it may not be reasonable to completely ignore his family.
When you are in a situation in which you are at loggerheads with your spouse’s family, it may be better to ask yourself the following questions:
* Have I been fair to them or have I seen them as my competitors?
* Have I really accepted them as my own family members?
* Have I really been sincere to myself on the cause of the conflict?
* Have I put myself in the shoes of my in-laws?
* Have I made my in-laws to see from my point of view?
* Have I prayed for wisdom to handle the matter when it appears difficult?
* Even If l have been maltreated, have I prayed that God should fight for me rather than fighting for myself?
Many marriages have been destroyed by the battle of the in-laws because the battle is often a fierce one. You must really ask yourself the questions above so as to determine whether or not you have been the real cause of the problem. You must not lose your home to the battle but you must fight fair. A lot of your attack and defence may have to be on your knees rather than making it physical.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Sincerely share your feelings about each other’s family members with each other.
* Is there anything that may be useful for you in relating with your in-laws from the above? Share with each other.

PRAYER
I receive divine wisdom to relate with the relatives of my spouse towards peaceful coexistence between us in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
YOUR IN-LAWS ARE NOT YOUR ENEMIES; IF YOU TREAT THEM AS YOUR OWN, THEY WILL ACCEPT YOU AS THEIR OWN. – Dr. Mike Oluniyi

Main Text:Deut.11:18-19.
Memory:
And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. (Deut.11:19)
The battle for the kids is the battle you must fight to ensure that your children do not go with the world. This is a very important battle these days because the world is filled with distractions within and without. Never in the history of the world has there been so many alternatives to God from which children must of necessity choose unless they are taught that your God is the ultimate source of quality life and eternity of peace. These other alternatives are so attractive that it takes the help of someone who has evidently charted the course to guide them in what to do.
How to fight the battle for the kids:
* Introduce Them To Your God
Let your children know the God you serve, the importance of being faithful to God as well as the consequences of being unfaithful to God.
* Let Your Home Model Love And Acceptance.
Do anything you can to model a good home to them because as you forgive each other, submit to each other, demonstrate love to each other etc., you will be teaching the children vital lessons that they can’t learn effectively elsewhere.

* Lead By Example
If you always tell lies and sometimes involve them in doing so, you may not expect them to really live a honest life since they did not see it in you.
* Educate Them, But Do It Wisely.
Do everything you can to ensure that your children are properly educated but do it wisely. For instance, many make the mistake of indiscriminately sending their young children alone to foreign countries to be educated without proper guidance. Many have lost their children to the world through such arrangements.

* Create Time To Be With Them.
You must deliberately spend time with your children. Spending time with them will afford you opportunity to discover traits in them that you would not have discovered otherwise.

* Build Trust
You need to build up the level of trust between you and your children. This is so important because they will be confused about issues of life for which they will ask questions that require answers. If they don’t trust you, they may ask from the wrong source which may shape their future habits negatively and destroy their lives.
* Discipline With Love. Pro.19:18
Many parents find it difficult to discipline their children because of the affection they have for them. Please note that if you love your child so much that you can’t discipline him or her, such love is questionable.

* Set Rules And Ensure Compliance.
Let your children know that once rules are set, they should be obeyed.

* Pray For Them.
After and in spite of all you might have done in terms of personal efforts, the place of prayer cannot be overemphasized in the upbringing of your children. Apart from being a prayer point on your daily prayer list, always seize every available opportunity to pray for them.

In conclusion, you must win the battle for the kids if you want to have a fulfilled old age and not disappoint God.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Is there anything we can do to improve on the way we are bringing up our children to ensure that we win the battle for the kids?
* Do you really feel that you are praying enough for your children?

PRAYER
I will not fail in the battle for the kids in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
A GOOD CHRISTIAN HOME IS ONE OF THE GREATEST LEGACIES YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILDREN. -Dr. Mike Oluniyi

Main Text:2 Cor .12:7-10
Memory:
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. (2Cor.12:9)

The battle of sexual realities in marriage has to do with facing realities about variance in the sexual needs between you and your spouse. This becomes a very serious challenge in many homes when either of the two fails to realize this and adjust accordingly.
If you plan to win this battle, you must study the sexual needs of your spouse, compare it with your own and do everything possible to close the gap in a compromise that will reduce conflict in the home. A wise couple should really face the following realities:
1. There is hardly any couple whose sexual desire is at par with each other. It is consequently not strange that there is variance in your own and that of your spouse. Often, that of the man is higher, but then in many other homes, it is the woman that complains of being denied of sex.
2. What turns a man on is often different from what turns a woman on. A man may be turned on by simply sighting his wife probably dressing up or something; a woman, however, is more complex since her feelings are involved.
3. In most cases, women are more resilient about sex than men; the reaction of a man that is denied of sex may be more violent than that of a woman.
4. As you age in marriage, there may be declining attractions and consequently the need to adjust to changing sexual desires. You may discover that you are not easily turned on the way it used to be. The real problem with this situation is that whereas it is so when you are with your spouse, it may not be so with another member of the opposite sex; that is one of the major reasons why many men stray as they get older.
5. As you age also, you should not have the feeling that your spouse does not need sex again. It may be a costly assumption.
6. If you get yourself involved in a relationship outside your home, your spouse may become less attractive to you sexually.
17. Without sexual harmony in your home, very simple problems may become so big and cause so much damage that you may be wondering later what happened.

Every man or woman who does not want to make a shipwreck of his or her marriage must make up his or her mind to win this battle, because failure to win it will make you or your spouse stray into the hands of a strange man or woman.

Discussion Points With Your Spouse
* Frankly share your experiences with each other and be frank with yourself in area of differences with a view to overcoming any challenges you may be experiencing.

PRAYER
Father, may I be humble enough to recognize the sexual realities in my home and key in to have a blissful marriage to the end in Jesus’ name.

QUOTABLE QUOTE
THE KEY TO SEXUAL HARMONY AT HOME IS COMPROMISE.-Dr. Mike Oluniyi